creating impact scenes

What elevates a "spanking" to an "impact scene"?

While sometimes impact play is fun just for the sake of trying out the toys/pain/sensations, you can add another level by co-creating a whole scene around your impact. Often times the energy between you and your partner is enough to make a scene, well, a scene. But what else makes that difference?

First, discuss intentions with your play partner! What type of scene do you both want? What is the goal of playing with impact that day? How do you each want to feel?

Then, discuss the scene itself! Do you want to add a game element? Have tasks to accomplish while getting hit? Have to hold a position? Combine pleasure & pain? Just have fun or really sink into the endorphins?

Check below for more details on setting intentions, game-ification, building impact scenes, and more!

INTENTION SETTING

• sexy

  • spanking during sexual play, more sensual impact, & any scenes with goals of arousal

• playful

  • "funishments", silly scenes, & generally more focus on the fun of playing together than "suffering"

• cathartic

  • process emotions/tension, negotiated punishment (D/s related), sometimes with the goal to cry

• role play

  • the scene itself is focused on role playing out a fantasy, with impact play built in

• suffering / pain

  • the pain is the goal, focus on endurance & intensity

SCENE IDEAS

• game-ify the impact

  • hold coins against the wall with your fingertips, extra hits if you drop them

  • crawl in a circle to "avoid" getting swatted

  • recite a poem/monologue, more hits if you lose your place or stop reciting

• rhythmic

  • hits to the beat of your favorite music

  • can be silly (Disney songs, musicals) or more intimate/meditative (find my scene playlist!)

• processing / pain focused

  • restrict movement to emphasize taking each hit

  • encourage deep breathing or counting to focus attention & let the body process

  • add blindfolds & headphones to focus the senses

• challenges / adding D/s

  • hold a glass of water on a flat palm, don't spill while getting hit

  • command them to hold positions while being hit

• mind games

  • lay out toys for them to choose what to get hit with

  • have them pick 3 toys, blindfold them, & have them guess which is being used at a time

  • try to stay silent during the scene (except safewords!)

• arousal

  • have them hold or tie a vibrator to their genitals during the scene

  • if co-topping, one can provide pleasure while the other provides pain to the bottom

What different ways have you played with impact?

[ photo by Kanan ; models Kanan and Sasha Barnes ]