There are lots of ways to play with sensation! While we'll cover some common types here, it's really an endless category. Think of how we experience our sense of touch -- that's the heart of sensation play & hints at how many possibilities there are to be creative.

Time for some Sensation Play Basics!

SENSATION PLAY is a category of play that explores sensations, whether or not they cause pain, such as temperature, fluffy, scratching, hot wax, tickling, electric, etc…

Ask and you shall receive! I can't believe I almost didn't share an Impact Playlist with y'all, but don't worry! Y'all called me out for missing the opportunity and I made things right. So behold: an Impact Play Playlist, about 50 minutes long so you can do a long warmup into a scene or just jam out for some inspiration…

What elevates a "spanking" to an "impact scene"?

While sometimes impact play is fun just for the sake of trying out the toys/pain/sensations, you can add another level by co-creating a whole scene around your impact. Often times the energy between you and your partner is enough to make a scene, well, a scene. But what else makes that difference?

Ooohhdamn do I love this quote by @theprincesskali . Remember my post on D/s Myths a few days ago? Enter in this quote as a big reminder about not making assumptions.

Princess Kali said this in an amazing class of hers that I took on erotic humiliation. She was talking about the very important point that you can't assume everyone will make the same meaning out of the same behavior. If you don't find being a puppy humiliating, being told to wag your tail and bark won't make you feel humiliated.

Power Exchange, Consensual Power Dynamics, D/s, or Dominance & Submission, is play where individuals occupy roles that involve exchanging power.

Let's have some real talk for a moment, y'all. Life was hectic even before the exhaustion of 2020. We have jobs, family, friends, chores around the house, hobbies, the 10 video games I haven't finished yet (just me?), keeping up with the news, random stress & chaos that decides to happen, depression bouts, periods, and a million other things. How on earth can we make time for a play date?

You didn't think I was done at just one playlist did you? I've got music to set all sorts of moods. 😘

Aftercare often deserves its own musical transition to help your mind & body transition from scene → regular life.

A lot of us feel pressured to be "on" all the time. Whether in work or with family or to appear strong, I know I'm not alone in struggling to be a certain way with others despite how I feel. And while I might spend a separate post talking about the struggle of expectations in kink, for the most part my play is a meditative space where I leave the fear of "on" behind.

We talk a lot about setting the mood and being intentional with scenes. The easiest way to do that (besides negotiation)? A playlist! Music helps build a space that feels intentional, separate from the rest of the world, and can super enhance your headspace during play.

I have often joked with my partner that anticipating the next hit in an impact scene is far worse than the hit itself. 😂

Sometimes pleasure is frightening. Because of trauma, because we don't feel worth, because we're scared of being overwhelmed, because our desires are intense and new to us. Fantasies and kink are like turning the dial up on all of that. Yes, the pleasure potential is ramped up when you think about finally experiencing a deep desire. But the anxiety may get ramped up too.